Charlie has made a development to his charming, confusing personality.
As of exactly his first birthday, he LIKES daddy.
He sort of tolerated daddy, as much as any other non-mommy-person can be tolerated or enjoyed. Sometimes daddy is funny or helpful, but is not a source of other useful things like comfort or milk and I'm not sure why this is. Lily readily accepted daddy as an equal parent from the start. Maybe it was because he was home more, stressed less and when he was working, generally we worked together at the restaurant construction site (OMG THREE YEARS AGO!). Maybe it was because we supplemented my breastfeeding lily with formula (at times up to 50/50) and so she received plenty of nourishment, snuggling, etc from daddy, which is not the case with charlie?
I dont know! In any case, Charlie just flipped a switch and decided they were buddies. enough that he sat with daddy for quite sometime at a long relaxed dinner out and without a bottle or anything else just relaxed and fell asleep.
I think working so hard for Charlie's affection over the last year made it a very exciting occasion!